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How To Handle Conflicts In Real Estate and In Life

How To Handle Conflicts In Real Estate and In Life

 

A collegue of mine shared this fantastic conflict resolution tool. Unfortunately I am not sure who the original author was, but it sure makes a lot of sense to me!   Can you see how this can be useful in dealing with co-workers, clients, contractors, colleagues and even family members?   

 

AAA Failsafe Feedback Framework


1. “I want to talk to you about (issue).

My positive intention for this conversation is….”

 

2. “I noticed / saw / heard….”
This is where you objectively state facts without emotion

 

3. “I was thinking….”
My opinions, fears, concerns, conclusions I drew, meaning I made, the story I told myself  (without blame, judgment or criticism)


4. “I felt….”
Feelings triggered in me (mad, sad, glad, scared) (without implying the other person
caused them)


5. “I intend / want….”
Positive intentions and outcomes I want for you, me, us, and the situation


6. “I request ….”
Specific Do Differently behaviors and actions

 

7. “I’m doing / owning / contributing….”
What I’m doing, the commitment I’m making, the part I’m playing in the solution


8. “I’m listening….”   

 I genuinely want to hear you and find a solution that works for both of us

 

Allow the other party to respond completely.  Do not allow yourself to get sucked into the blame game.

 

Do you think this will really work?  I sure do and now I am really looking forward to the next conflict!  I love having an action plan!!

 

How To Handle Conflicts In Real Estate and In Life

Warm Regards,

Bridget McGee  Maryland Mortgage Mama  NMLS# 196068  Corridor Mortgage Group.   410-960-2061 EHO   bmcgee@corridormtg.com or marylandmortgagemama@gmail.com

 

If you are considering purchasing a home in Maryland and want to be sure you are mortgage ready, my brother Tony and I will be happy to help! We help to make the mortgage process a pleasure! 

If you already own your home, we are happy to provide a no-cost mortgage review to help you to determine if refinancing may be in your best interest.  Please contact me at 410-960-2061.

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